How to gain self-confidence

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Self-confidence can work wonders. A person who is not particularly distinguished by intellectual and creative abilities can get a job in life thanks to confidence alone. Of course, it is desirable to develop other skills, but this one is the most important for decision-making and action. If you are confident in yourself, then you are acting, and this is usually half the battle.

Here are five simple tips for you. They do not require incredible willpower or discipline, self-confidence is developed very quickly. The hard part is just making it a habit, because you have to start over every morning. If you keep up this pace for a few months, confidence will become second nature. So, let's begin.

 

1. You don't need a reason to be confident.

Many people mistakenly believe that only at certain points in their lives do they need to be confident in themselves – in public speaking, in an interview, in a conflict. But why in these situations? What's wrong with being confident in all areas of life? This, by the way, is the very reason why a person, even practicing the rules of certainty, cannot make it his habit. He simply believes that this skill should be exercised temporarily, and not always. Doubt is not the opposite of certainty. You may doubt some things just to think about something more seriously, but at the same time you perform the action with determination.

You can and should be confident in yourself from morning to evening. You don't even need people who believe in you or say you can achieve something. You do not need situations that confirm your confidence. It is a mindset and a habit that can be developed in oneself regardless of external circumstances, because it is an internal state.

Decide that you will be confident just like that. This is the power of intention and decision. You decided to be confident and become such a person, there is no special technique or technique.

A person cannot choose where to be born or what genes to have, but he can choose how he feels. Thus confidence is like happiness, which is completely independent of external circumstances. Be confident for no reason.

 

2. Decide exactly what you want

Agree, it's hard to be confident when you don't know your goal. Confidence consists of two simple steps: the desire to be confident and the goal to which it is directed.

Before talking to a person, clearly define what you want to achieve. This should not be an obsessive desire, because the interlocutor will feel that you are using him. So don't let yourself get overconfident and manipulated.
Your goals depend on your values. If you know your values, then you perfectly understand your goal in each case. So take some time to reflect and decide what you are striving for.

 

3. Competence

Of course, you can try to build a house, while not understanding anything about it and feel confident, but reality will show you that this is rather self-confidence. Therefore, the more you know the area in which you perform actions, the more confident you become. Now there are no excuses for not knowing, because on the Internet you can find anything on any topic.

But what about confidence in an unfamiliar situation? Don't panic, it's normal that you don't know or understand anything at the moment. Your ignorance does not mean that you are a stupid or inept person, it simply means that you have no experience in this area.

Feel at ease in circumstances that you have never been in before, this does not make you a bad person. Be sure to study all the details and aspects of the problem.

 

4. Inertia

She works in physics, she works in psychology. If you stopped and became discouraged, then of course you should not expect any certainty. Start doing what you're good at, celebrate the results, and move on.

Even the solution of the smallest problem ignites a spark within a person that can ignite a whole flame. Confidence depends on actions. More action means more confidence, as the brain perceives action as a competency. By the way, this is why many motivational speakers advise you to simply start taking actions, even in an area in which you understand little. The main thing is to start, and then we'll see. The decision triggers the action, which then means certainty.

The theory, of course, needs to be known, but practice helps to understand many things much faster. Nothing prevents you from absorbing theory while practicing and thus learning by doing.

 

5. Social life

Above we talked about the fact that you do not need people in order to be self-confident. This is true, however, when you are in society, you can test your confidence in practice. How do you know you're confident when you're sitting at home in front of your computer? It is people who are the criterion of your confidence.

You may not immediately be able to feel at ease with all the people, but if you do not lose heart, you will soon feel a huge difference. Connect with people, notice their confidence and learn from it.