How to develop adequate self-esteem for your child

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It is dangerous to underestimate a person who overestimates himself.
(Franklin Roosevelt)

Often parents have to hear from their children “I can’t”, “I won’t succeed”, “I don’t know how to do it”. Assessing himself, his abilities, opportunities, his place in the world, the child sometimes makes mistakes, underestimating or vice versa, overestimating self-esteem. When it comes to self-esteem, we are talking about an important personal education that should not be left unattended.

The child's attitude towards himself is made up of two key factors: his own achievements (“what I can do”, “what I can”, “what I do well”) and the assessment of his personality by others. But do not forget about such an important feature as individuality. Individual characteristics affect self-esteem, determining how important the quality or action that is performed by the person himself is.

Well-known psychologists and scientists were engaged in the study of self-esteem. Among them are such names as W. James, Z. Freud, K. Rogers. An important contribution was made by B.G. Ananiev, L.I. Bozhovich, I.S. Con. This is not the whole list of great names who paid close attention to self-esteem, its structure, functions and patterns of formation.

 

Self-esteem and its functions

Self-esteem is a complex psychological system. The totality of mental processes, phenomena, human activity allows the child to know himself and distinguish himself as part of the big world. Self-esteem functions are a powerful stimulus for personal development. What are these functions?

Self-assessment performs three functions:

  • Regulatory – the ability to regulate their behavior and their activities
  • Protective – the ability to keep one's personality stable and independent
  • The development function, knowing oneself, giving an assessment of one's behavior through the prism of self-assessment by others, development takes place.

How to develop adequate self-esteem for your child

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Building self-esteem

The formation of self-esteem occurs in the process of activity and interpersonal communication and interaction. The adequacy of self-esteem depends on how objectively the child and his actions are evaluated. The activity of the child and his desire for self-improvement depend on self-esteem. The sooner adequate self-esteem is formed, the greater success he will be able to achieve in life.

Adhere to the points listed below, this will help to form an adequate self-esteem.

  • Love and acceptance
  • More rewards, less punishment
  • Let your child be successful
  • Children's independence as a necessity
  • Explain your needs to your child
  • Don't go overboard with the power you have
  • Rules are rules, they must be followed
  • Listen to the opinion of the child, but do not be guided only by his desires
  • Teach your child to listen to the opinions of others, but have their own point of view
  • Teach skills for non-aggressive behavior in cases of criticism
  • Learn to respect the feelings and desires of other children
  • Address the child with requests for help or advice as an older or equal (this point is especially important when raising boys in the mother-son relationship)
  • Be objective about the actions of the child and his behavior

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Conclusion and Feedback

So, self-esteem occupies an important place in the formation of personality. Self-esteem can be overestimated, underestimated, adequate and inadequate. But it is important to understand that on how adequate the self-esteem of the child will be, his ability to correctly and correctly assess his mental and physical abilities, as well as to make a choice of personal qualities that require special attention and development, depends. Adolescence and adolescence require special attention, when there is an active formation of personality.

Do you think low self-esteem can be an incentive for self-development and self-improvement? Share your point of view in the comments.

Source: 4brain.ru