Misconceptions and facts about introverts

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The most important part of the life of a modern person is communication. The degree of professional, social and personal realization depends on the ability to communicate. The most attractive seems to be a very specific behavioral type – extraversion. A recognized example of this type of behavior is an open, sociable, friendly and slightly naive person. They are called "shirt-guy", they have a "soul wide open."

However, we are all different, and not everyone can meet the “ideal”. Some of us do not consider it necessary to constantly express our thoughts out loud and splash out emotions on others. They are more comfortable in their inner worlds, and they go out only when necessary. These are introverts.

Public institutions (school, university, etc.) and the media seek to convince people of the benefits of extraversion, and therefore introverts are often perceived as unusual, strange. There are many misconceptions about their behavior, the most common of which are presented below.

 

1. An introvert is taciturn and shy

The introvert is focused on his own perception of the outside world, and not on how the world evaluates his behavior. If the topic of the conversation affects the circle of his immediate interests, the introvert can reveal himself as a completely talkative and sociable person.

The apparent shyness of an introvert is not associated with a fear of any interpersonal contacts, but with the fear that he and his interests will be incomprehensible or indifferent to a particular interlocutor. In fact, this is not tightness as such, but the desire to contact exclusively with those with whom there are certain points of intersection.

If the introvert does not participate in the general conversation, he is either not going to discuss the topic at all, or has already expressed all the available considerations.

 

2. An introvert is rude and indifferent

An introvert does not adapt to the interlocutor and does not communicate for reasons of decency. A person he does not like runs the risk of stumbling into a complete reluctance to contact and even irritation. This does not mean that an introvert cannot be polite. He understands that, defiantly getting rid of an uninteresting or unpleasant interlocutor, he does not act in the way that is customary in society, but still prefers the “wrong” act to undesirable communication.

 

3. An introvert always wants to be alone

Rather, an introvert likes to be alone and doesn't feel uncomfortable about it. He is difficult to converge with others and meticulously chooses friends, avoiding casual contacts. But with loved ones, the introvert is sensitive, helpful and sincere. He has the ability to listen and delve into the inner experiences of another person, although there are few people around him.

 

4. An introvert doesn't know how to relax

An introvert does not know how to relax the way extroverts do. He is not interested in corporate parties, dangerous adventures and noisy public places. People prone to introversion feel great in nature, alone with their dreams and plans. To relax, they do not need company, but to have fun – the fun of others.

 

5. The crowd makes the introvert fearful

The sensations that an introvert experiences in large crowds of people have nothing to do with phobia. This is a kind of discomfort that leads to rapid fatigue. However, an introvert is capable of being a public figure, or at least not shying away from communicating with the public: examples include US President Abraham Lincoln, businessman Bill Gates, director Alfred Hitchcock, actors Clint Eastwood and Harrison Ford, actresses Gwyneth Paltrow, Michelle Pfeiffer and Grace Kelly.

Usually an introvert participates in social events without problems if their topic corresponds to his professional or personal interests.

 

6. An introvert is prone to eccentricities

An introvert is always more interested in his own thoughts and experiences than in the people and events around him. It may seem strange when a person behaves completely closed, completely disconnected from social life. However, this rarely happens. Usually introverts like quiet music, comfortable, soft clothes, discreet, functional household items. They prefer an environment that does not attract special attention and provides a sense of inner comfort. This is more of a personal taste than a fad.

 

7. If desired, an introvert can become an extrovert

It's impossible. The tendency to introversion is an inborn personality trait, and an introvert cannot change internally. But, living in an extrovert-oriented society, many introverts eventually begin to behave in a way that does not differ too much from the majority. An introvert is not prone to violent conflicts and a showdown. Therefore, he usually manages to restrain himself and not splash out his emotions on unpleasant interlocutors, but politely but firmly limit communication.

An introvert "pretending" to be an extrovert only appears a little more introverted and a little less talkative than those around them.

 

Introversion is not a pathology, but simply one of the behaviors. Scientists believe that in every person there are some shares of introversion and extraversion, and a specific style of behavior is determined by their relationship and external circumstances. If you meet a pronounced introvert, do not try to force him to behave "like everyone else." An uncomfortable situation will be created that will not benefit anyone.

Source: neboleem.net

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