5 Principles for Building Strong Relationships

“Building relationships is serious work” — say some postulates of relationship psychology. And the most important thing is to know exactly what to work on in order not to waste time and to get results. This can be compared to the cutting of a diamond — the better its facets are polished, the more harmonious the relationship will be. Today we will talk about which facets of the diamond of relationships should be polished.

1. Feelings

It is necessary to periodically analyze relationships: if you realize that something is happening within you on an emotional level, or notice changes in your partner; if you argue and are dissatisfied with each other, it means you need to pay attention to this and deal with it.

Not only positive and joyful moments, but also negative ones should be discussed. By working through any changes together, you can understand the reasons for the problems, find an acceptable solution for both, and guide the relationship in the right direction. However, it is very important to be sincere and honest with each other. This is the key to a successful outcome in any situation.

2. The art of arguing

Very often, when arguing, people start to make mutual accusations, recall past mistakes, and even insult each other. This should never be allowed. Even if you are overwhelmed by emotions, try to remember that it is just an argument that will soon end, and that it concerns a specific situation relevant at the moment. Don't mix everything together, or the argument may turn into a prolonged conflict with unknown consequences.

3. Common interests

Common interests are another fundamental principle of strong and harmonious relationships. Naturally, people should not agree on everything, and no two people are exactly alike, but there must definitely be common beliefs, interests, hobbies, principles, and views on life.

In addition, there should be a sincere interest in the daily and inner life of your loved one — this will allow you to feel and understand them better. But don't forget that even in commonality, there should be a measure — more on that in the next point.

4. Personal freedom

The mistake of many couples is that they reduce personal space and limit each other's freedom. And this is necessary, if not for everyone, then for many people, like air. Personal freedom allows a person to feel that they can still manage their time and life independently, that they are not bound by any "chains", and that they are free to do what they want. It is from this that the desire to be with the one they love and who is waiting for them grows.

5. No pressure

In any relationship, it is very important to make sure that one person does not feel excessive pressure from the other. Be tolerant and patient with your loved one. Strive to understand all their expressions, desires, and emotions, listen, communicate, compromise, sacrifice your own interests, because for a person who feels true and sincere feelings, this is never violence or something unacceptable.

Try to make the person feel comfortable with you — when there is no pressure, there is no resistance. And balanced relationships are precisely harmonious. This is not about passion or emotions, but about an adequate attitude not only to yourself but also to your partner.